Sometimes when I’m stressed, wondering how we’re going to get out of godforsaken Las Vegas, or if we’re ever going to function semi-normally as a family, or how we’re buying groceries this week, Dan comforts me by saying “It’s just Step 2. Step 2 is like this. But then– Step 3, honey!”
No one’s quite sure how to get from here to there. We just know where we want to end up. We skip over Step 2. Which is great for some people (and I guess for gnomes), but not so hot for me.
My mind loves Step 2. It thrives on Step 2. It loves all the intricacies of passing from Step 1 to Step 3– or more accurately, taking action to make Step 3 happen. So to find my life in a place where a big fat “?” sits in lieu of a legitimate plan stretches the limits of my patience. Also, my sanity.
Then I found this quote that changed my perspective. It’s actually about writing, but (like so many quotes about writing) it applies pretty well to life as a whole, especially if you’re frustrated by inertia like me.
Now when uncertainty sideswipes me, I take a deep breath and try remember two things:
We’re in Step 2.
We can make the whole trip that way.
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